3 Main Causes of Divorce
One of the most gut-wrenching decisions a person , has to make in life is whether or not to get divorced . So what forces couples into making this decision (if even just temporarily as they separate)? Every marriage is unique but there are common denominators that underlie such a challenging choice. Now, we can explore the three main causes of divorce in greater detail: severe abuse, betrayal, and a divergence in life purpose.
1. Severe Abuse
It is an awful betrayal of trust and safety in a marriage. It can manifest in various ways, like;
- Physical Abuse: Physical harm inflicted by a partner can be life-threatening and leave permanent scars.
- Emotional and Mental Abuse: This kind of abuse consists of any action or behavior designed to subordinate a partner by rendering them emotionally invalid.
- Verbal Abuse: Continual insults and regular yelling over anything from a misplaced sock to dinner not simmered in time can utterly crush an individuals poise.
- Financial Abuse: Restricting access to financial resources as a way of dominating and controlling other partner.
- Sexual Abuse: Non-consensual one-sided sexual acts are harassment, even within marriage.
Victims do not leave because the abuser denies and downplays their behavior making it hard for that person to ask for help. In many cases counseling can provide a way to heal, but both parties must recognize the problem and agree that it is something they are willing to fix. If the abuse continues and cannot be changed, the egress of the mariage may represent to its victim the best way to answer being safe and healthy. For some, divorce is the only means of regaining personal safety, dignity and mental health.
2. Betrayal
Infidelity and dishonesty stabs at the heart of marital trust, while lies shatter everything that sustains a relationship. This violation can take so many forms including most prominently :
- Cheating: Whether it is a physical affair or an emotional one, being unfaithful to a partner blows trust and intimacy into millions of smithereens.
- Lies and Deception: In the end, lies and deception will kill trust- The more critical an issue is to a relationship, so much greater its significance when lying about it becomes evident.
- Financial Infidelity: Keeping hidden purchases, undisclosed debt, or financial blunders from your spouse can cause major issues in a marriage.
Although under certain circumstances betrayal can be forgiven, repeated and systematic betrayals cause unrepairable injury. Both partners need to communicate openly and receive counseling to work on these issues. But if it happens over and again, the victimized partner can no longer trust or respect their spouse, then divorce becomes the best solution to bring them back on track emotionally.
3. Differences in Life Purpose
A difference in life purpose can be subtle but profoundly impactful. This problem occurs when partners no longer share common goals or visions for their future. It may include:
- Personal Growth: One partner feels suppressed or inhibited by the other, which prevents them from reaching their full potential.
- Spiritual or Religious Differences: Changes in spiritual beliefs or religious practices can create a fundamental rift in the relationship.
- Career Ambitions: Conflicting career goals or relocating for job opportunities can put a strain on a marriage.
- Parenting Differences: Disagreements about raising children or whether to have children can become a significant source of conflict.
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